Long Time, Big Changes

so I havent posted in awhile due to the craziness. After New York, Ian and I headed up north for winetasting, my dad's 50th, and a wedding. Overall it was a good trip. The next weekend, however, is now named "The weekend from hell". Okay, first of all, it was four days, which seemed like an eternity. Ian and I went up to SB for his younger sister's wedding. The worst part about the whole trip was that his family doesnt like me, and they never even made an effort to get to know me. But I knew this before that weekend. Anyhow, the first night there was this shower, and besides Ian, nobody really talked to me there. That night Ian said he would go out with the guys for a little while, not get drunk, and come back and watch a movie with me. So I am hanging out at his family's house when I realize all the girls went out and didnt invite me. This sucks. Then the maid of honor (superbitch) gets home and starts telling me how I should break up with Ian. Ian came home late and didnt hang out with me....

The next few days werent much better. Everyone kept talking about that night and how awesome it was, just reminding me of how shitty my night was. Ian and I talked about it, he promised me he would take me out the next night and I thought everything was better. Next night: rehearsal dinner. I actually had fun chatting with extended members of his family, who actually talked to me. We dont go out, Ian doesnt want to. I am sort of confused and a little pissed.

The wedding: The wedding was pretty fun, I drank a lot, and talked with cute guys from England. Everyone decided to go out that night. I got superdrunk because I wanted to go out all weekend, and was in a really weird place emotionally. Superbitch tells Ian "we dont see you guys together" and "you should break up with her". Ian and I got home safe. The next day we drive home after a brunch thing and hang out for several hours. I begin to believe things are getting better, but decide to take a few days off from him anyhow.

Wednesday: Ian breaks up with me. Personally, I think the wedding made his 25 year old self super confused about what he wants. I mean, seeing you younger sister get married must be pretty weird. Also, its hard to be the only guy in your group of friends with a gf, especially one your family doesnt like. I know he is making a big mistake and hopefully he realizes it. I spent a few days crying, still cant eat really, and told the story to about a million people. Currently, I am okay with the way things are. I dont want to be with somebody who isnt sure that they want to be with me. Also, I think he needs to see how unfulfilling one night stands and random dating is. I think most guys go through a phase in their mid-20's and it's what makes them dateable around 30.

There were issues in our relationship, but definitely nothing that couldn't be resolved. I think he just didnt want to make an effort, which is understandable, since he is super selfish. There are a lot of things I didnt like about Ian and our relationship, but nobody cheated or lied or anything like that. I realize that the breakup wasnt really even about me, so there is nothing I can do about it. I know I can find someone who is more fun and treats me better. Finding someone with crazy eating habits who enjoys airplane dvds, however, might be more challenging...